failure.

the number one reason why people fail?

fear of failure.

so the number one reason why you fail at meeting beautiful women is because you fear failing to meet beautiful women.

so.....how does one go around this.

by not trying to meet beautiful women.

ok, so now what.

just make eye contact and smile at a beautiful woman.

just say hello to a beautiful woman as you pass her in the grocery store.

say hello and wait for her response and allow yourself the four or five seconds to relax as she responds, and the next few moments will flow into an intuitive aha! experience that you can build on.....for next time.

because this is training day.

and every day from this point onward is training day.

and so say goodbye to failure.

because you aren`t trying to do anything.

stayin` alive.

pretty much says it all. if you hear that music and those lyrics while you walk along, your body will tell the world......


STAYIN' ALIVE
Written by:
Barry Gibb
Robin Gibb
Maurice Gibb
(1977)

Lead vocals:
Barry Gibb

Album:
Saturday night fever
(1977)

Well, you can tell by the way I use my walk,
I'm a woman's man, no time to talk.
Music loud and women warm,
I've been kicked around
since I was born.

And now it's all right, it's OK.
And you may look the other way.
We can try to understand
the New York Times' effect on man.

Whether you're a brother or whether you're a mother,
you're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Feel the city breaking and everybody shaking,
and we're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive.

Well now, I get low and I get high,
and if I can't get either, I really try.
Got the wings of heaven on my shoes.
I'm a dancing man and I just can't lose.
You know it's all right, it's OK.
I'll live to see another day.
We can try to understand
the New York Times' effect on man.

Whether you're a brother or whether you're a mother,
you're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Feel the city breaking and everybody shaking,
and we're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive. Aah.

Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me,
somebody help me, yeah.
Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me, yeah.
I'm stayin' alive.

Well, you can tell by the way I use my walk,
I'm a woman's man, no time to talk.
Music loud and women warm,
I've been kicked around since I was born.

And now it's all right, it's OK.
And you can look the other way.
We can try to understand
the New York Times' effect on man.

Whether you're a brother or whether you're a mother,
you're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Feel the city breaking and everybody shaking,
and we're stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive, stayin' alive.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, stayin' alive.

Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me,
somebody help me, yeah.
Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me, yeah.
I'm stayin' alive.

Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me,
somebody help me, yeah.
Life going nowhere.
Somebody help me, yeah.
I'm stayin' alive. ...

hypnosis.

in hypnosis the practitioner knows that the first trance is the one that the practitioner finds himself in.

the reason why one must attain a shift of consciousness is that when you do, the other people you come into contact with will eventually match your state.

this is true of all people all the time.

the trance state you are aiming for is a relaxed focused state whereby images are brighter and sounds are clearer and things seem to move a little slower and subtle expressions and gestures are easier to read.

this attunement is necessary if you are to communicate effectively with the beautiful woman sitting in that chair beside you.

she is telling you so much by the way she`s sitting and moving and breathing that if you are nervous and impatient you will crash about like a bull in a china shop and she will find someone else to entertain her.

style.

people use this word to describe fashion mostly. clothes. shoes. watches.......etc.

but i use the term to mean attitude.

we wear our attitude like an overcoat.

so choose wisely.

we are judged on style.

posture.

one of my teachers made us walk up to him and stand in front of him.

he would then criticise us on that alone.

why?

because how we first arrive speakes volumes about who we are.

preparing in your mind how to walk and talk to yourself in your head as you go creates your persona.....your aura.....your appeal to others.

spend some time in a public place and watch how people carry themselves and know that it`s all about what they are saying to themselves while they go.

and when you find someone who walks like you want to walk, ask yourself what they must be talking about to move so beautifully.

and when you find out what they are saying, try it yourself.

practice, practice, practice.

this applies to anything worthwhile doing.

the old joke goes like this;

a boy walks up to a man on the street in new york city and says "mister, how do you get to carnegie hall?"

the man says "practice son, practice."

when all else fails try enormous amounts of repitition.

so when i say practice, i mean go out and say hello to beautiful women. strike up a conversation and leave them with a smile. gain confidence in your posture and your pacing and vocal tone.

they will appreciate it and you will gain confidence in your ability to do it again and again until it becomes second nature.

you will become the person in the line that is smooth and confident with the pretty barista and you will say just the right thing to have her smile and blush slightly and delicately......and remember you the next time.

the bars.

we typically think that all the hot women are crowded into bars on an evening and they are the ones who are most likely to be interested in meeting guys.....

well, not necessarily.

there are a number of factors that are working against you in the bar environment.

firstly, the place is way too loud for the nuance and subtlety of conversation.

secondly, she`s most likely with friends and having fun, and not interested in getting "cornered".

thirdly, alcohol distorts your and her perceptions of most things.....and besides, drunk isn`t sexy at all.

though don`t rule bars out. you will find yourself in one occasionally and there will be women in them, so practice, practice, practice.

so, what are your options?

everywhere else, any other time of day.

a short list might help.

libraries. (the book she`s reading is a clue.)

grocery stores. (shopping carts are great props.)

walking your dog (or borrow one.)

gas station forecourts.

starbucks.

live events.

parks. (dog-walking.)

the city at lunch-time......my god what a place of simple pleasure and joy.

and any other place where men and women go and spend social time.

all of these places are full of women who aren`t drunk and who would enjoy casual conversation from a skillful stranger....

...and you owe her this.

think about that.