the pilsberry dough-boy......

a friend of mine and student of women met a girl at starbucks.



she worked behind the counter at 5bucks and also ran a small bakery supplying catered treats for weddings and meetings.



my friend and i were discussing ways of eliciting responses in people non-verbally and he got an idea in his head, unbeknownst to me.



my friend and i decided to get a starbucks one warm summer`s afternoon and his girl was working behind the counter.



he walked up and smiled at the girl and said, "hey, it`s the pilsberry dough-girl!" quickly poking himself in the stomach as he said it and made the little giggle sound like on the commercial.



she turned bright red and i thought she was going to pass out right there......or have a religious experience.



my friend, who`s is a little shy, missed her response because he turned his head just as he fired off the trigger......



i was standing not five feet away and caught the whole magical thing.



when we sat down i gave him a friendly jab for not getting the payoff for all his courage, but he learned a valuable lesson about the power of gestures, anchors, and the strength of the horny woman`s mind.



so what did my friend do?



knowing she was a baker, he chose theme that was bakery related, the pilsberry dough-boy.



he then chose a poke in the stomach as an intimate gesture, a thing he and she would like to share possibly.



then he made the comment and the gesture and the giggle.



boom, she went into the stratosphere.



what next?



quietly and calmly continue the conversation as if little happened and then GET.HER.PHONE.NUMBER. at some convenient time while you are still in the glow of the reaction.



now why did the girl do that?



my freind put together a series of triggers for things the girl was familiar with combined with a strongly sexual gesture and displayed it right in front of her.



her reaction told me she had been fantasizing about him....and that he should proceed in closing the deal.



here i will say that, for most men, the closing is the hardest part.



they learn to elicit responses, get phone numbers or e-mails, but still can`t get the girl`s legs moving out the door.



we`ll touch on that next.

women`s language.

men and women communicate differently.

men talk to exchange information.

women talk to elicit responses.

men use thier mode of communication to speak to women and mostly turn off thier target.

and this is true of women too.

imagine if you had the ability to make a woman feel any way you wanted to simply by talking to her.

you already do make her feel many things by talking to her. unfortunately most of the things she will feel this way are neutral at best, because you aren`t used to talking about things that turn her on in the way she gets aroused.

she`s not interested in baseball or politics or the weather.

she will engage with you about these things if she`s already attracted to you or if she`s comfortable with you socially, but when you are meeting women that interest you conversations about these things will bore her quickly.

she also doesn`t care about your car or your hockey team.

she isn`t wired to care about these things.

she is really hoping that you are a poet or an artist who can help her to paint pictures in her mind and get strong feelings as a response.

ok, got it?

tell her stories that involve her senses.

visual, auditory, kinesthetic, gustatory, olfactory. proprioceptic.

sight, sound, touch, taste, smell......and one other. balance.

each woman is slightly different in terms of which internal state gets her aroused, but it doesn`t take long to find out which way her map works.

you tell her stories from different perspectives.

one story might be about the beach, and another might be about supper, and one might be about the feel of a particular type of material......and how it feels against the skin.

if you are paying atention to her reaction as you speak you will notice that she will begin to react strongly whan you hit the right button.

her pupils will dialate.

her skin will flush.

the muscles in her face will loosen and her lips will swell ever so slightly.

and if you are on target, her breathing will deepen and her chest will heave.

telling her a story that elicits these type of responses totally masters her neurology.

and she will not want you to stop.

you may think this is a lot of work, and difficult to do.

well, at first it takes practice to feel comfortable communicating this way......but over time women will become fascinated by the way you make them feel because you are appealing to thier own internal structure of arousal.......

simply by telling stories designed to elicit responses of arousal in a woman you want to be with.

while you are sitting with her controlling her undivided attention.

the new man

so you are sitting in a bar and across the room a woman is looking over at you.

she`s hot and you want to go over and talk to her, but every time you think about doing that, your heart rate jumps and your palms start sweating and you can`t think straight about what you would say to her.......

so you sit there and have another drink.

all of the familiar thoughts run through your head. like, she`d never talk to me....or she`s probably got a boyfriend, or a girl like that wants a gq model....

you get the picture.

so by the time you finally get the nerve up to go over and talk to her, if you ever do, you are in such a state that anything you say to her is going to come out wrong.

and you aren`t alone in this.

millions of men go through the same torture, sitting in bars looking at women they desire.....and feeling awful while they do it.

this writing is the beginning of a series adressing this issue and describing techniques that will allow the reader to master thier internal state and learn to communicate effectively with women.